Think Everyone Needs the Same Leadership?
Welcome to another Toolkit Tuesday! Every week, our goal is to give you a practical leadership tool to put in your toolkit.
So There I Was…
One of my very first coaching clients was a Nurturer through and through. Soft spoken, others focused and incredibly gifted but completely unsure of herself.
She came to me because she wanted to grow her self-confidence. She wanted to speak up more boldly for herself and her business but didn’t quite know how. The voice was there. She just didn’t believe people wanted to hear it.
Over the next six months we worked through our Altitude Training program together. Week by week, tool by tool, I tailored our sessions to support and challenge her in a way that matched her wiring. She didn’t need a push. She needed belief, space and a few practical frameworks to help her see what I already saw in her.
And it worked. She started showing up differently, not just in business, but in every part of her life.
Now two years later I still see her at networking events. She walks in confident and strong, speaking clearly about her work and what she brings to the table. Her core is unmistakable and unshakable.
The Challenge
Leadership isn’t one size fits all.
We know this. But too often we still default to leading others the way we would want to be led. When that doesn’t work we blame them or ourselves instead of adjusting our approach.
Every person you lead has a different mix of strengths, insecurities and growth needs. Your job isn’t to make them like you. Your job is to help them become the strongest healthiest version of themselves.
But you can’t do that if you don’t really know who they are.
The Tool: Know Others to Lead Others
This tool builds directly on two key foundations:
The Core of Your Leadership: Every person has a Core made up of IQ (task skills), EQ (emotional intelligence) and PQ (personality awareness)
Know Yourself to Lead Yourself: Before you can lead others well you have to be aware of your own tendencies and how they affect others
Once you’ve done the hard work of self leadership it’s time to expand that intentionality to those you lead.
Here’s how it works:
Visualize each person on your team as a version of the Core—some with high IQ but low EQ, others with strong PQ but underdeveloped task skills.
Use the 5 Voices to understand how they’re wired and where they naturally thrive or struggle.
Support and challenge them differently based on what they need most to grow their Core
When you know your people—not just what they do but who they are—you can lead them in a way that helps them truly grow.
Why This Matters Now
In a noisy fast moving work culture people crave two things: to be known and to be grown.
Leaders who know their people well are able to calibrate encouragement, development and accountability in a way that builds both confidence and capability.
The result? You stop managing tasks and start multiplying people.
The Result
That quiet Nurturer I worked with? She didn’t just gain confidence. She found her voice. And because she felt safe, seen and supported she stepped into her strength faster than she thought possible.
That’s what happens when you know someone well enough to lead them well. You create space for growth that sticks.
Take Action
Pick one person you lead. Evaluate their Core: Where are they strong—IQ, EQ or PQ? Where do they need to grow? What kind of support or challenge would move them forward this week?
Let's build stronger leaders. Book a strategy session to explore how you can develop a growth plan for your team using the Core, the 5 Voices and other high trust leadership tools.
Closing the Loop
Our client didn’t need to become louder. She needed to believe her voice mattered. That belief was the spark but the real change came from steady intentional leadership tailored to her wiring.
That’s how we build stronger teams—one person one breakthrough at a time.
Lead hard!
